Start Here: 9 Lessons for Women Building a Better Life

The Weekly Brew (or maybe now... Monthly?)

Okay, so I’ve kinda abandoned the Weekly Brew. And while I’ve got a long list of valid reasons to justify it, the truth is I figured since I don’t have a huge audience yet, no one would notice. Right?

Which opens the door to a whole other conversation about commitment, accountability, and consistency... but that’s for another brew. For now, I’m making an executive decision and switching it up to The Monthly Brew. That’s a pace I can realistically keep while juggling all the hats I wear. As I get better at managing everything and the community grows, I may ramp it up again. But for now grace over grind.

Quick housekeeping:
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Now, onto this month’s topic.

This week I shared a few thoughts on social media, life lessons I wish I knew back in the day. To be honest, it’s not always that I didn’t know... I just didn’t think it was important to listen. So if you're younger and reading this, I hope you’re less stubborn than I was and if you’re older, maybe you’re still healing from them and you’ll probably nod along.

1. Get to know God for yourself.
Not through fear. Not through shame. Not because someone scared you into it. Know Him through relationship. Ask real questions. Learn His character. Trust him always.

2. Don’t wait to start good habits.
Discipline is easier to build than to repair. Start small, whether it’s with money, health, mindset, or your daily rhythm. Consistency > intensity.

3. Moisturize and wear sunscreen every single day.
I don’t care how oily it makes your skin look (trust me). You’ll thank yourself later. Your face and neck need love. It’s not about anti-aging it’s about taking care of yourself and having no regrets due to negligence later.

4. Save money even when you feel broke.
Saving $10 out of $100 builds more character than saving $1,000 when you're comfortable. Don’t wait until you “have more.” Build the habit now.

5. Know why you’re making your choices.
Do you want it? Or did someone make it look good? Let your decisions come from desire, not pressure, trends, or other people’s timelines.

6. Love isn’t just vibes.
It’s work. Real love requires thoughtfulness, mutual respect, and selflessness. There’s a difference between compromise and self-abandonment. Don’t confuse the two.

7. Be mindful of who you have children with.
The idea is to be together forever but things happen and no matter what this person becomes a permanent part of your life. Think beyond the romance. What kind of parent will they be?

8. You’re not running out of time.
You’re evolving. Growth takes time. Some things are better built slowly. Don’t rush but don’t sleep on yourself either.

9. Rest is necessary.
You don’t have to burn out to prove you’re serious. You’ll be more effective with boundaries than without.

Big sisters, what would you add?
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